Quiet Time

At times I love being a mom..well, the part that you are loved and needed all day long, even at night (when you have a breastfeeding infant). But I also crave the ME time and the quiet time.

As a crafter by passion, I need the quiet time so that I can think creatively. You can’t come out with anything beautiful when everything is chaotic. So when I have the extra energy to wake up early after the morning feeding session, I really appreciate the quiet time and the ME time.

It doesn’t matter if I don’t manage to do anything crafty during that precious length of time, as long as I am on my own, enjoying the lack of children noise..heh!

Like today, I took out the garbage because Monday is garbage collecting day in this neighborhood. And then I bring out the laundry line out in the sun. I water the plants and even spray them with diluted fertilizer.

I decided to cut down the effort of making hot Milo and opt for the cold boxed one from the fridge.

And then I on this laptop and start checking the emails and see the stats of this blog.

I transfer the images from my smart phone to the storage in this laptop in case something happen to my phone and I will lost all the priceless pictures of my children.

And then the baby starts to cry..well, there goes the quiet time. Till later, readers :)

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Homeschooling With A Baby

The birthday party went well, despite a few glitches here and there. I am yet to edit the pictures. And yes, I managed to get the pinata hanged and pulled for the birthday boy, with help from nieces and (future) nephew :)

BTW, as the party progressed and a friend back from University time came, she did ask about how I manage to home school my eldest while having a baby on tow.

Most people have this idea that homeschooling is like conducting class like in school but you do it in your own house.

The truth is you don’t do routine and rigid classes like that in real homeschooling or should I say, unschooling.

Everyday I wake up, tired and most of the time grumpy because of the lack of sleep, or how many time I have to wake up breastfeeding, comforting a teething baby or changing his diapers. Do you think I will have the energy to conduct a proper lesson like in school for his older brother? Definitely not.

Furthermore even if my son knows how to read at this age, I am not sure he will understand what he is reading. Mind you, my son is autistic, on the PDD NOS spectrum, so the idea of him being able to read at his age now is really a novelty. Even if his physical age is 6, I think his mental and intelligence is like 4 year old. And what do you expect from a 4 year old child, finish reading the box set of Harry Potter books?

At times I do feel the pressure and the guilt of not doing much (if I were to compare to others who send their children to kindy), but then I ponder to the time when I was his age, I think I didn’t learn that much in kindergarten ( I went to Chinese kindy for 2 years with me being the sole Malay girl in the class).

For now I just want him to learn as much as life skills possible, like to be able to go to pee and poop in public toilet without being naked and jumping around, to help take care of his younger brother while Mama is trying to get a quick shower, to understand the true meaning of sympathy and empathy, to know that others have needs and wants, like when he has to be quiet since Adik needs to take nap.

The academic has to wait for now. And I have to persevere. It’s tough, it really is. Thus why RM284 per month for normal kid to go to kindy is actually nothing if you compare to effort and energy you have to put in homeschooling.

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Saturday Morning

I was never a morning person.

As a teenager who spent years in boarding school, I always wake up just on time to take shower, pray and rush for the compulsory breakfast at 7am in the dining hall. Of course I tried not to be fined as late comer because the Fine prefect was unusually stern and I didn’t want to affect my house marks.

Err..we have strict British-boarding school like rules, I know, some kind like Hogwarts..hah!

And then I entered college life. I tried hard to choose class that doesn’t start as early as 8am although there were certain lecturer and tutor who insist on doing early slot. (They must have been the early, morning person type of people..sigh!)

After college, I was fortunate to get a job that starts at 3pm.

Yes, I know, must be the non local working hours.

The company I got the first job at has several time zone (UK, US, Singapore) and they run 24/7. I should have taken the US time job, more like the graveyard shift, 12am till 9am (but I like to sleep in the morning, how?)

After I resigned from the job and became the full time house wife, I sleep all day. Hubby went to work in the morning and I was still sleeping, because I sleep at 5-6am after watching the Korean cooking channel.

I woke up around 3pm while waiting for Hubby to come home in the evening. Certain days I cook but at times we went out and eat. That time was really a bliss. Thanks Hubby :)

And then we got the first baby. He didn’t sleep at night due to his autistic traits and sensory issue (which we have no idea until he got diagnosed 4 years later).

So I wake up when he wakes up, and sleep when he sleeps. Life the first year with a baby was miserable.

5 years later and with the second child, I am becoming a morning person. I’m not sure whether it’s because the aging process or because I yearn so much for ME-time.

There’s nothing more peaceful than sitting at my desk, sipping hot MILO while the whole house is still sleeping.

Like today, I thought I want to sleep in like the children do since it is Saturday morning, but there are many important tasks to do like boiling water, cleaning the dishes in the kitchen sink, folding the laundry or update my blog, heh!

I guess as you grow old, you wouldn’t need as much as sleep as you used to get. Especially when you are a stay at home mom.

Somehow with the birth of every new child, God grant you a super extra power to forgo long hours of sleep, a several nap time in a day and sufficient rest.

Whenever I breastfeed my baby and he falls asleep (he naps like 2 times a day now), if I am so tired at that time, a power nap of 10 minutes would be enough to rejuvenate my energy to last another 5-6 hours or until he sleeps at night.

Amazing isn’t it?

I do hope and pray that I will be granted good health and energy to take care of these two boisterous children. In 10 years time, I hope I would be able to enjoy good morning sleep on Saturday. :)

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It’s Friday!

The hippeastrum is blooming and I got the chance to drink my cup of Milo before these two boys wake up. What a good start of the day, I thought to myself.

How about you? How’s your Friday?

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Another Birthday Party In The Making

Yes, I know..it’s been a while since I write anything. Well, I am still alive and living life as a mother as usual..heh!

My life is so busy with these two boys. Now that both are teething, yes you read right, my eldest is teething as well. His big boy molar is coming out, gum is swollen and today when he woke up, even his cheek is swollen. He has been crying at night because it was so painful that he couldn’t sleep. Life is tough, son!

In less than a month, we will be having another birthday party in the house. The theme chosen by the birthday boy this year is LEGO. We were not able to celebrate my eldest son 5th birthday last year because I was pregnant with the second one. So this year Mama will make it up to him, with pinata and all. Errr, how do you make pinata by the way? Got to find the materials and try to make one before the real event.

Found this picture of his first birthday party when he turned 3. The theme was CARS. See, the balloons at the wall, a pitiful 3 balloons..hahah! Of course it got better the following year. This year, not sure who will help in pumping the balloons but we already got the supplies from our favorite party shop – Glowing Party House.

I got to call the caterer today to confirm my food order. I really can’t cook for many people this year so I have no choice but to ask around for catered food. Luckily an acquaintance who runs a restaurant (Hatinie’s Kitchen) is willing to cater for our little event. Hopefully it will turn out great.

Will update again especially about the pinata..heh!

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